I Don’t Know If I Want to Be in the Relationship

by Dorena Kohrs,  Interior Alignment® Practitioner, Soul Coaching® Practitioner, Clutter Clearing Practitioner

I don’t know if I want to be in the relationship.

 I don’t either.

That was the start of a conversation I had a year ago with Abby. We were doing some feng shui work in her home and had just walked into her dining room.

In feng shui, every area of your home is associated with an area of your life.

For Abby, her dining room was the room associated with Relationships, including the one with her current partner. The partner who she was on the fence about.

All I could think about was the Clash. The lyrics “should I stay or should I go” were blaring in my head.

I didn’t know if Abby should stay or go. Abby didn’t know if she should stay or go.

But, we were about to do a bit of house therapy to figure it out.

I told Abby we were going to use her dining room as a template for how she wanted to feel in relationship with ANY intimate partner.

She said she wanted to feel…

>> Supported

>> Seen

>> Heard

>> Cherished

>> Comfortable

So we created a plan to…

>> Remove the artwork that had prickly imagery.

>> Replace the super uncomfortable chairs.

>> Swap photographs of other people with pictures of her and her partner.

>> Exchange the ho hum chandelier with one that cast brilliant light.

>> Add a few candles as a wink to passion.

We redesigned the room, so the energy became an invitation for exquisite partnership.

I told Abby that this new energy was going to do one of two things.

1. Draw her and her partner closer together.
2. Make it apparent that this wasn’t the relationship she wanted.

Her dining room would help her navigate her next steps.

In the coming months, I watched Abby gracefully end her relationship and move across the country. Each step of the way being dictated by what opened her heart and brought her joy.

WHAT ABOUT YOU?

Would you like to use your home to bring more clarity to your love life…or simply zhuzh it up?

Here’s what to do first:

1. Identify the Relationship area of your home. To do so, picture a tic tac toe board laid on top of your home’s floor plan. If you’re standing at your front door looking in, your Relationship area will be the area in the back right corner of your home. (Back left if you’re in the Southern Hemisphere.)
2. Use an adjective to describe this area of your home. (It’s often a metaphor for how you’re feeling about your relationships.)
3. Name how you WANT to feel when you’re in relationship.

Here’s what to do next:

Begin aligning the energy in the Relationship area of your home with how you want to feel in relationship by:

1. Subtracting what you don’t love, need, or use. Include anything symbolic of how you DON’T want to feel in your relationship. Prickly cactuses anyone?
2. Shifting anything that doesn’t match the purpose of that space.
3. Adding things symbolic of how you want to feel in your relationship. Pairs of objects are a great place to start!

Here’s to using your home to navigate your path forward.

xo

Dorena

Dorena is a practitioner of Interior Alignment, Soul Coaching and a Certified Clutter Clearing Coach using the Linn Method. She is also a Reiki master and an Archangelic Light master practitioner.

She offers her services in person as well as by video conferencing.

Her super power is identifying what you’re holding onto that is holding you back. It is this intuitive gift that allows her clients to make changes in their environment which is the catalyst for making changes in their life.

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